I have always considered myself a feminist, ever since the age of six when I refused to watch any Disney movies because ‘girls don’t need a boy to save them’. I feel strongly about the issue of body image, and believe that everyone should love themselves exactly the way that they are.
It wasn’t until last week, when I was going through my lengthy morning ritual of applying every makeup product imaginable, that I realised I may in fact be nothing but a gigantic hypocrite. Yes, I believe that everyone is beautiful the way that they are, but I will spout this at my friends while I am powdering my nose or touching up my lipstick.
But here’s the thing: I can see the hypocrisy. I really can. But I still have absolutely no problem with makeup, whether it’s on myself or anybody else. Because when it comes down to it, what is the harm?
I have seen so many videos and blogs lately spouting the evils of makeup on female self-esteem; as well as having comments thrown at me from my friends and family who don’t wear makeup (which is always the case when someone does anything that we don’t). So, as a long time makeup wearer and a short time writer, I am going to do something a little crazy.
I am going to argue the other side.
I don’t think that makeup is a social evil designed to keep female morale down; designed to keep them believing that they can’t be lovely without it. After my families comments particularly got to me last year, I decided to go six months without makeup. And you know what? I was just as happy, my self-esteem was just as high, and I was just as confident as when I do slather product onto my face. But once the six months were over, I went right back to wearing makeup.
Because I like it. Not because without it I am snivelling, unhappy mess on the floor; but because it’s fun to wear. Just as it’s fun to get my hair done and wear pretty dresses.
And even in the cases where people do find makeup boosting their self-esteem and lack confidence without it, I still think that makeup is absolutely fine. Blasphemy I know. But the truth is, a large proportion of society do beat themselves up about their looks. And while it’s all well and good to say ‘have high self-esteem’, you can’t force it onto someone. And if something external is going to make them feel more attractive on the outside, allowing them to shine on the inside, then there is nothing wrong with that.
There are bigger battles to fight, and making women feel bad for needing that extra something to feel a little bit more special isn’t doing anyone any favours; nor does it suddenly force people to feel better about themselves without it.
Unless something is detrimental to either the person in question or others around them, I think the saying that we need to remember is ‘live and let live’.
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make up has never been a big deal in my life: I'm too lazy for it, it costs too much money, and I think I look silly with it on. however, I can understand why people wear it - how it could give someone a little boost in the same way a new pair of shoes or a new hair cut could. I know that putting on red lipstick always makes me feel fancy! it just doesn't suit my personality - and that's fine by me. just as it's fine by me for other people to wear make up if it makes them feel good.
what I DON'T think is fine, is when women believe they NEED make up in order to be happy or peppy or beautiful. I know that's the point you included as well :)
thanks for the post! it's a good'n!
Good Post!
Good Post!
promise : )
But the thing is, I'm completely fine without it too. I believe that people should your natural face, it's what we were born with so why be ashamed of it.
and usually my skin which is untra sensitive wants to breath freely and is super cranky when i have something...and well i can never really learn how to do it rite...
but its very attractive and i usually feel a bit awed when i fidn someone that looks better then me... somehow ... but since as soon as she is out of the way i am back to being the best thing around me... i usually forget to remember doing it...
i dont know...but if i like a product, which my skin permits and is easy for me to manage applying... i wud be like one of u all... or if i had a girl friend who i cud take tips on and get help learning it from may be then... unfortunately the only girl i know or am close to is my mom and she is just as ignorant on makeup issues as i am...
or if i find a man who is adamant for having me all made up i may just to please him and get that motivation to do it... its a hassle i can never have time or energy for...:)
X
Really, it's just about doing things you enjoy, not because society is telling you to, but because you want to. It can be a fine line to walk...
and i'm glad you brought this issue up. there's a big difference between relying on make-up to cover your face because you think your face is hideous, and using make-up to have fun with giving yourself different looks. it's just like clothes, in my opinion. some people use clothes to hide themselves, some people have fun dressing up. those are two very different attitudes behind the same action. the action itself isn't the problem, it's the underlying thoughts.
I hardly ever wear make up and I am always a bit allergic to it when I do, but I love having people who wear make up regularly, do my make up for me - its magical what y'all can do!
xo,
ashley
Good post!:D
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