It’s strange, the amount of different personalities we possess. That is not to say that we are fake, or aren’t completely ourselves. But we choose which strengths and weaknesses to emphasise depending on the situation.
I certainly feel like I am the same person day in and day out. Growing and evolving yes. But inherently, deep down at my core, the same.
However, that being said, I feel like the people I work with wouldn’t recognise the person I am when I’m with my friends. The people in my dance class most certainly would not recognise the person I am with my family. And yet I feel as if I am the same person all the time.
I guess we’re all playing a part, choosing to show what is appropriate for the situation.
Is it better this way? Or are we stifling ourselves? I sometimes wonder if the happiest people are those who surround themselves only with people who love every part of them, the good and the bad.
Though I can tell you now, were I to act at work like I do at home I would not have a job.
So is it better to choose our job, school and social life in a manner that will allow us to be entirely free? Or do we need these social restrictions and rules to keep our feet on the ground and allow us to truly grow?
I’m not offering any arguments either way. I honestly have no idea. Just food for thought I guess.
But I have really begun to think about this since I started my blog. Because while I try to be completely honest, I have found I can’t be. While this blog does show one side of my personality, I have blocked out some other parts. It has become introspective, which is what I wanted initially yes, but it is not necessarily true to me.
To be honest...I’m not nearly so polite. I drink, swear, get insane road-rage, throw tantrums when I don’t get my own way, am not at all politically correct, enjoy horrible jokes, and occasionally pretend I’m in Sex and the City and discuss my sex life at inopportune moments that leave both myself and whoever I force fed the piece of information feeling extremely uncomfortable...
But when I find myself typing posts that may reveal the less savoury aspects of myself, I always swallow my courage and delete them.
I have managed to typecast myself, and into someone annoying bland as well.
Do we all do this? Are we all picking and choosing only those aspects that we don’t mind strangers seeing?
Or am I just playing it safe.
Either way, I’m overhauling this blog and it’s gonna get messy....
...or you know, maybe not. Depends on how I feel tomorrow :)
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i leave my un-PC jokes for my friends, keep my swearing to a minimum (in fact, i don't think i've ever really sworn on my blog!) and my opinionated thoughts on current world matters away from the bloggy-wog.
BUT having said that I love it when people just throw themselves into their blog and say everything they feel and do etc and don't censor themselves. I'm just not quite ready for that yet :)
So is it better to choose our job, school and social life in a manner that will allow us to be entirely free? Or do we need these social restrictions and rules to keep our feet on the ground and allow us to truly grow?
I think for me at least, it's how to interact with different people - some people wouldn't be comfortable with the loud and outgoing me 100% of the time, whereas some people respond better to that. Humans are naturally social, and I think we do this naturally to make other people comfortable. But personally, I like it - I like that I can be "switched on" with some people, and more introspective with others...
Oh man, massive comment, sorry!
anyway, i totally agree with you. however, i think it depends what kind of readers you attract with your blog. i know that i am living overseas and not only is my blog my only friend here sometimes lol it's also a means for communicating with my family and friends. so... that part can be draining. i want to say something funny or politically wrong, but i have to keep in mind that my aunts and uncles and my mom and my guy's family will also be reading it. i think if i were writing a blog just for friends then it would be entirely different. it's the PG version that i write. i have also found myself writing posts and deleting them! sometimes i want to comment on scandal political issues and then i think, who am i to comment? and who will i be offending? it's probably in my best interest to delete but sometimes it almost makes my chest heavy because i so much wanted to say what i wanted to say!!!
i say, go for it. say what you want!
Andrea x
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PS: Would love if you stopped by my blog sometime - which, six months later, remains as it did after the overhaul!
I find comfort in one co-worker. While another, I feel I can't be my self at all..and I have to be an audience telling them what a saint they are, when really..well, I won't get into it.
This has brought up questions for me.
For me, the blogging process is a lot about saying exactly what's on my mind in the hope that the people I know and love who I don't have the time, space or courage to tell will be able to see it and understand.
On another topic: I have a blog award for you; the details can be found on my June 1st post. xx
by the way, you & and your blog are definately NOT 'annoyingly bland'.
:)
My favorite quote. It made me laugh because I could totally relate to this. Whatever you're writing in your blog, don't feel like you're being pretentious just because you feel like you're only showing a part of who you are. I think it's natural to act in a certain manner depending on the situation. So with that said, keep up the awesomeness in your blog! Your thoughts here are very insightful. =D
Thanks for always leaving such sweet comments on my blog!
Great post xx
For my blog, Inspector Climate always emails me all worried that I have tipped off the wagon and into depressed from reading my blog. when really, I use it as a place to write about my feelings - happy, sad, depressed, angry - and afterwards feel relieved to have shared it.
I look forward to getting to know the SaTC, swearing, tantrum throwing you. Because chances are, I'll still totally relate!
My blog accurately reflects who I am. I show every side of myself on my blog because I want my followers to really know who I am.
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I love to share what books I'm reading, and currently I'm reading something that I think may make me unpopular to some readers, even though it shouldn't, and I've been having reservations about posting on it. Isn't that silly?
And that's not all...it's just the latest example of how I am not always my true self.
Yes, I guess there are certain places (like the work place) where it's not always possible to let it all hang out...but our blogs are OUR places. They should reflect who we really are, to the extent that we want them to.
Thank you so much for this post!! I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one having these thoughts! And I'm so inspired by your pledge to get messy!
Hooray!!
xoxo
eleanor xx
mirrorofmyworld.blogspot.com
I think it's part societal and social- and "good". Part energetic and unhelpable (different people have different energies. And part us maybe wanting to please- which can also be seen as bad--
maybe the more in tune we are with "ourselves", the less we'd vary from group to group?