1. How to be happy
2. How to be indie
3. How to become a justice of the peace (okay, so this has no relevance to anything I am about to write. But it IS a good question....)
4. How to become a model
5. How to be anorexic.
To be perfectly honest, this post was originally going to be a rant. The fact that ‘how to be anorexic’ is the 5th most popular search REALLY made my blood boil. Why don’t you just cut out the middle man and type in ‘how to alienate everyone you know, become someone you’re ashamed of, miss out on the best years of your life, and lose a good proportion of your hair...which by the way DOES NOT grow back ever’...
...or you know, something similar to that.
Wow, this did turn into a rant. Oops.
But as I sat down to write this, I began to think. I wasn't angry anymore. I just felt sad.
‘How to be happy’ is number one in this search. And it’s no wonder, if the other results are anything to go by. We are so desperate to be happy, but we are going about it the completely wrong way. Becoming indie, a model or developing a serious mental disorder are no ways to become happy.
Conforming to a stereotype will not help you to follow your dreams or get in touch with who you really are. Neither will getting a job that judges you solely on your looks. And starving yourself to meet society’s ever increasing demand on women to become everything that they are not, nor are they naturally meant to be, won’t make you happy either.
Focusing on looks and weight does not bring happiness. It brings discontent. And discontent leads to unhappiness. Which is why, ultimately, we all end up googling: ‘how to be happy’.
Our priorities have become completely skewed. And until we focus on what is important, the rates if depression are going to keep rising, and we’re going to keep turning to google for questions that we already know the answers to.
Were ‘how to be kind to others’, ‘how to be charitable’, or ‘how to be the best I can be’ included in the top 5 searches, then I can almost guarantee you that ‘how to be happy’ would be much further down on the list.
ps. Oh yeah, and obviously I didn’t end up ‘shaking things up’ like I talked about a few posts ago. I think the fact that I am too lazy to do so says much more about my personality than anything I could ever write....