1. How to be happy
2. How to be indie
3. How to become a justice of the peace (okay, so this has no relevance to anything I am about to write. But it IS a good question....)
4. How to become a model
5. How to be anorexic.
To be perfectly honest, this post was originally going to be a rant. The fact that ‘how to be anorexic’ is the 5th most popular search REALLY made my blood boil. Why don’t you just cut out the middle man and type in ‘how to alienate everyone you know, become someone you’re ashamed of, miss out on the best years of your life, and lose a good proportion of your hair...which by the way DOES NOT grow back ever’...
...or you know, something similar to that.
Wow, this did turn into a rant. Oops.
But as I sat down to write this, I began to think. I wasn't angry anymore. I just felt sad.
‘How to be happy’ is number one in this search. And it’s no wonder, if the other results are anything to go by. We are so desperate to be happy, but we are going about it the completely wrong way. Becoming indie, a model or developing a serious mental disorder are no ways to become happy.
Conforming to a stereotype will not help you to follow your dreams or get in touch with who you really are. Neither will getting a job that judges you solely on your looks. And starving yourself to meet society’s ever increasing demand on women to become everything that they are not, nor are they naturally meant to be, won’t make you happy either.
Focusing on looks and weight does not bring happiness. It brings discontent. And discontent leads to unhappiness. Which is why, ultimately, we all end up googling: ‘how to be happy’.
Our priorities have become completely skewed. And until we focus on what is important, the rates if depression are going to keep rising, and we’re going to keep turning to google for questions that we already know the answers to.
Were ‘how to be kind to others’, ‘how to be charitable’, or ‘how to be the best I can be’ included in the top 5 searches, then I can almost guarantee you that ‘how to be happy’ would be much further down on the list.
ps. Oh yeah, and obviously I didn’t end up ‘shaking things up’ like I talked about a few posts ago. I think the fact that I am too lazy to do so says much more about my personality than anything I could ever write....
Comments
i think that your post is really insightful. i enjoyed reading it. although sadly i also know that there are people out there who dont choose to have anorexia- it just develops (my best friend being one of them- hers developed in childhood ). i am shocked that that is number 5 on google!!!
have a wonderful week and keep writing. :) xo
www.mirrorofmyworld.blogspot.com
Yes, we should be more giving. Good stuff.
May I just add my two cents and say, besides agreeing with pretty much everything you have said, that I myself am a skinny little stick, always have been, and I FUCKING HATE IT. It does not bring happiness, only, as you say, thin hair, as well as iron deifiency anemia, weakness in muscles and shortness of breath. It is actually hard to find clothes a size 8 as well I must say!!!
check out my blog too if you like, would be happy!
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On the other hand...how to be indie? Really? Ha.
It's so stupid.
People are messed up these days.
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One of my favorite quotes. I think one big problem is that people think they can ALWAYS be happy. Once we start to realize that we will go through tough patches, then we begin to reach a place of balance.
I'm not sure how I feel about the number 1. It can be positive or negative - at least people are looking for happiness rather than 'how to be rich' or something more superficial.
xoxo from rome
K.
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thank you for this post! you did a wonderful job on it!
It's so heartbreaking to know that we all kind of want the same thing, happiness, and yet we're to some degree or another, incapable of knowing how to go about making it happen.
I will add on a less solemn note that positive communities, on the internet and out in the world do exist, so there's a lot of hope:) xx
xoxo
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